Love is a verb and an action and not a feeling. Somehow we all know that because we know that when someone says, “I love you”, it does not necessarily mean that they do. We want to see their love in action. Love also is who someone is and love flows from the person who loves. Love does not come from the recipient but from the one who loves. If it comes from the recipient then it is a conditional love that is a “I love you because…” and that kind of love will never sustain a relationship or marriage. Love must come from the one who loves. Sometimes that love is returned and sometimes it is not returned. That is the risk that the one who loves has to take. God took that risk with Adam and Eve when He created them and He has taken that risk with us.
Love does not tempt someone to do what is not right in the eyes of the Lord. The Bibles says that it is wrong for a man to look on a woman with lust for her.
Love is a gift that the Lord gives. He wants every married couple to discover His gift of love and to keep it. When a man and a woman get married they both have great intentions to love one another and yet not all who find love end up keeping the deep and abiding love that can last a lifetime that the Lord planned for them. Many married couples either split up or end up existing together but few have a greater love for each other at the end of their lives together than they did at the beginning of their marriage.
For love to last in any relationship then it must be established on the foundation of God’s Word and the knowledge of Him.
Anger is an emotion that can easily destroy love. Only a fool will allow anger to control him and it is best to not be angry at all.
True love will always act with wisdom. Love seeks only the best for the other and wisdom are the practical steps of action of what we need to do to get where we want to go. If we want a loving marriage then we need wisdom to know what we need to do so that our marriage will be filled with love. Most people know what they want but they do not know how to get there. Most people get married wanting for their marriage to be filled with love but too often the love fades and then the marriage dies.
Love is a response to love. We can only love to the extent that we have known love. We can only know love through God since He is the source of love and God is love. When we love God then we will know the Lord and His love and we will be known by Him. It is then that we can love others with a God like love.
The plan from the beginning was that we were to be loved and we were to respond in love. This is still the plan and it is the plan for all relationships. Love seeks only the best for the other and has no selfish ambitions. When we are loved and love in return then we will be and do what we were created to be and do. God created us to be loved by Him and it was His desire that we respond with love for Him. However, love is a choice and in the beginning man chose not to love God.
The sooner you realize that it is not in you and that you can not love on your own the easier your life will be. We are basically selfish and life is all about our own self. Everything revolves around “what is in it for me”.
Sometimes we learn more through rejection than we do through success. Our response to life often is more important than what happens to us in life. Our response determines the direction our life will go in. When we feel rejected by someone we were trying to please we can look to the Lord or we can become angry and try to justify ourselves.